Outta sight out of mind

There is a long detailed post about what object permanence is and how it relates to adhd, but I would like to take it a step further.

An issue is not an issue if I’m not thinking about it. Point blank period.

I forget what is in my fridge. When my friends ask to come over, I panic because my apartment could be spotless or a complete disaster and I don’t know which until I open the door. I forget to text back, call back, write back.

Unintentionally of course. In my heart, I’m the queen of a setting up follow up but I never follow up. It breaks my heart.

Those are things that are because of object permanence that you always hear about. What about in dating?

At one point, I talked to you every single day because it wa sorry of my routine. One day missed, next thing you know it’s been 6 months. Whoops. It seems as no time has passed when I actually call back because I didn’t even realize it had been that long.

My Life Group was discussing missing people and attachment. They commended me on my ability to detach and move on. In reality, I don’t think I am detaching because I literally just forget. When I remember I’ll most likely be sad in the moment, but I’m definitely going to forget.

Like for instance, I have to remind myself that people are no longer with us on earth. I have the urge to call people or visit people that haven’t been alive for years. Whoops.

I just wanted to add a little human element to the conversation. Maybe I’m reaching but it seems spot on to me.